True friends

My intent was to blog about friends. True friends ~ you know the kind of friend who loves you for who you are ~ the kind of friend who is there anytime of the day ~ the kind of friend who laughs when you laugh and cries when you cry ~ the kind of friend who tells you the hard stuff and then picks you up, dusts you off and walks beside you through that hard stuff.

Somewhere along my thought process for this blog I realized that this was about much more than true friends. It is about two special people who I respect and love. Both have been placed in my life for similar yet totally different purposes. They have been through my good times and my bad. They have laughed with me and cried with me. They help me see that I am not the reflection I see in the mirror. They give me strength when I don't think I can stand on my own. They are just there for me.

I am blessed to have these friends in my life. I am not sure if I would have made it this far without them and don't want to go forward without them. There are no words to say how deeply I feel.

I love you two!

We all need somebody!

I haven't blogged since my transparency - still struggling - haven't turned the corner yet but I know someday I will...

I found this video last night (late, late, late last night, actually early, early, early this morning).

Everybody needs somebody - boy have I needed somebody over the past four months.

I am truly blessed to have not just one somebody but somebodies ~ somebodies who call me on the carpet when I mess up, who tell it to me straight, who believe in me, who pick me up when I fall down but most of all who love me for who I am. 

I challenge you to take the time today to send a text, send an email, or call to tell your somebody that they are your somebody.  Don't put it off, don't wait ~ cause we all need somebody Y 

When words fail

I don't like it - no I hate it when people I love hurt.

I get so frustrated when I don't have the words to help. I just want to make things better. But sometimes when a friend is hurting there are no words of comfort. Words of wisdom only seem to be cold. Words of love don't seem to ease the hurt.

So what to do? Love them through it. Hold them when they need to be held. Pick them up when they fall. Wipe their tears when they come. Pray for them. Just love them!

Why?

Why does God put people in our lives for only a period of time? You know the ~ some people come into our lives for a reason, season or life time ~ I am pretty sure I dislike two of the three!


I don't let people "in". For more years that I would like to admit I have built a fortress around my heart. It is very high, guarded by an army, and surrounded by a moat. Get the picture. I have been working hard at building a bridge over the moat, calling off the troops and adding an entrance. Quite a few now have crossed the bridge, not quite as many have gotten past the troops and only a handful have actually gained entrance.


This past week two of those who have gained entrance have been called to serve God somewhere else. OUCH! Instinct set in and the door has locked, the troops have been called back in full force and the bridge has closed until further notice or at least until I have had time to grieve and process.


I may never know the answer to why God needed them somewhere else when I need them here. Maybe I am not supposed to but I do know I love them and will miss them so much it hurt.

Friends

How do you know if someone is a true friend? That is easy...they are willing to come over even if you don't ask or can't talk about what you needed a friend for. Tonight I found that out. The reason I needed a friend - well - that will need to be a later post when I have had time to process.

The lesson I needed tonight from God was that there are people in my life who are true friends and it is ok to rely on them. They are there for me when I ask and even when I don't. They know when I am hurting but don't speak it, they know when I need help but won't ask; they just know me.

To those friends I say thank you!